Christopher and Sylvia go on a yuri deep dive to uncover that dangerous age that can make yuri romance so appealing. Starting with the toxic queens in Dear Brother to the new era in I Want to Love You Till Your Dying Day.
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Spoiler Warning for discussion of the series ahead.
Crunchyroll streams I Want to Love You Till Your Dying Day, This Monster Wants to Eat Me, Citrus, BanG Dream! Ave Mujica, and BanG Dream YUME∞MITA.
RetroCrush streams Dear Brother.
Madoka Magica Rebellion is rentable on Amazon.
Happy Sugar Life is apparently too toxic for streaming.
Sylvia, doing a column like this is all about give-and-take with our editors, and we do ask for a lot. A live column at a convention. A week off doing the column on account of said convention. The chance to talk about niche topics like toys and karate bugmen. So it behooves us to listen and accept when esteemed editor Lynzee hands down a request of her own, in this case telling us we had to watch and discuss the messed-up yuri anime this season.
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Oh sure, fine, twist our arms, I guess we could do that.
Alas, it is time to pay one very gay and very bloody piper. I suppose, for the time being, I can do my best to put myself in the shoes of someone who might enjoy woeful tales of cosmic codependence spun between two women. I think I can manage that if I really put my mind to it. If I really sink my teeth into it. Really dig my claws. And other such hypothetical activities.

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In other words, it’s time to answer the age-old question: what’s the deal with toxic yuri?
The less-than-healthy lilies in this case bloom in this season’s I Want to Love You Till Your Dying Day, an ostensible romance series that didn’t get covered in the romantic comedy roundup, because, uh, well, look at it.
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Granted, I’m doing some bloody cherrypicking, because it’s not like Dying Day doesn’t have its own lighter side. It’s a series of contrasts. That sort of contrast is, I think, one of the first appeals of this scintillating spin-off of the girls-love genre.
Appending that word “toxic” to this genre, however, evokes a general set of traits we might begin with. These relationships probably won’t be entirely healthy. The plot’s subject matter will likely delve into salacious or mature material. Maybe the series itself skews more adult or more melodramatic. At the very least, when I consider the prospect of toxicity in romantic storytelling, I’m looking for emotional and psychological messiness. And in Dying Day, that messiness is quite literal and visceral.

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That is the point. Sheena and Mimi are finding new kinds of happiness with each other even as they’re contained within several screwed-up situational layers. They might not even be aware of some of them or how they’re coloring their relationship. But they’re there, like an inky blackness seeping into the walls they’re cohabitating in.

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Full disclosure: Lynzee suggested we do a compare and contrast of these first six episodes of Dying Day with the beginning of the shojo classic and toxic yuri tentpole Dear Brother. And I agree, mostly because it means I get to talk about Dear Brother again.

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That is my Dear Brother face.
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Contrast is certainly immediately apparent, that’s for sure. While the multiple screwed-up ships in Dear Brother are absolutely shaped by the school environment they take place in, they’re also way more noticeably toxic between the characters themselves compared to Sheena and Mimi using each other as emotional refuge.

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Which, incidentally, is a fate inflicted by Fukiko onto Rei in the very first episode. When you see an umbrella get thrown like that, you immediately know that there is some kind of hellish backstory to it. And Dear Brother delights in teasing out every aching morsel of that truth throughout its runtime.
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It also means Nanako’s newly naïve enough that she can’t see the red flags in her own burgeoning relationships, which facilitates terrific toxic times for herself.
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Dear Brother thrives because, as a melodrama, it’s predicated on these big-swing moments, and this directorial approach turning each one into an event is made for that.
I Want to Love You Till Your Dying Day, in contrast, is more focused on those quieter moments of solace from the horrors it keeps cutting away from. It’s basically the opposite approach, even as it has its own major moments predicated on said horrors rounding the corner as your anxiety ramps up.
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By contrast, Dear Brother is largely a bloodless affair except when it isn’t. And as a result, those flashes of violence hit all the harder.
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BTW, please forgive the DVD quality on some of these. I still haven’t upgraded all of my Dear Brother screencaps to glorious HD.
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Don’t think I missed the sheer radioactive tension emanating off the school’s teacher and nurse. Don’t try and tell me these two haven’t hooked up at least once in a way they’re still trying to navigate.
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And yes, the upperclassmen trio at Seiran serves the same function in Dear Brother, although their closer proximity to Nanako in age and cohort means she gets more easily tangled up in their affairs and power struggles, i.e., more delicious poison to enjoy.
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Although if we’re talking about concentrated toxic yuri vibes, Mariko’s arc is the highlight of Dear Brother‘s opening act.

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It has truly never been more normal for girls.

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In hindsight, it was pretty funny of me to start watching Dear Brother, trying to figure out what Mariko’s angle with Nanako actually was, what scheme she was running. Turns out…she was simply down atrocious.

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This too is another instance of the setting supplying so much of the baseline toxicity. The oppressive upper-crust school setting has not been kind to someone looked down upon like Mariko is for her father’s work. But then there’s also the immediate personal toxicity that defines Dear Brother: Yeah, she needs help, but she could still also be handling asking for it better.

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Yes, she’s great.

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I don’t want to spoil everything, but I do want to say that Mariko gets mellower and more based as the series progresses.
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It’s kind of a slow-burn horror!

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Romance and relationships run a gamut of emotions, and explicitly making a connection unhealthy makes it easier to get to those more complex components and deliver the big breakdowns and moments that come with them.

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For a recent point of contrast, This Monster Wants to Eat Me surprised me with how it developed its central unhealthy relationship into something both more honest and more abject by the time its first season wrapped up.

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Now that’s immediately coming out swinging on the subject of death and romanticizing thereof compared to Dying Day‘s flirtations with it thus far! Though I’ll say it’s also neat to see we’re seemingly getting at least one anime about gay mermaids per year.
Another recent font of yurified toxicity—one that we’re both familiar with at this point—has been the BanG Dream! franchise. Suffice it to say that this scene in particular changed my life. For the worse, and for the better.
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And then it turned out that Soyo wasn’t even the most messed-up, pathetic woman lusting after Sakiko! She just has this effect on people, including, uh, her own family.

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Looking further back, Revolutionary Girl Utena‘s web of relationships is not exclusively yuri in nature, but almost all of them exemplify a wrongness, a yearning, or an abusive quality that was instructive for how I perceived every subsequent anime I’ve ever watched. It is the rancid ruler by which I measure most things.
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It’s also probably why I tend to appreciate a dash of incest in my blend of venom.

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Sometimes it is enough for toxic yuri to simply be a hot mess wrapped up in a salacious conceit.

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Happy Sugar Life also does something similar, but even more effed-up. But then you can’t stream that one at this moment, and that would also mean asking those who couldn’t get past Citrus‘s step-incest to get on board with the problematic age-gap as a foundation for toxic yuri funtimes.

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By the same token, novels (light, visual, or otherwise) have a better chance of plumbing the deepest depths of the yuri miasma, because they can be made by smaller teams for more niche audiences. If OELVNs are your thing in particular, there are currently two game jams worth of toxic yuri visual novels to sink your teeth into. That should be enough to sate all but the most voracious of yuri consumers.

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As well, our former TWIA co-writer Nicky would never let me live it down if I didn’t bring up Of The Devil, which I can pitch quite effectively as “Death Note as a toxic yuri Ace Attorney-like”

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Speaking of, to pull this column back into the anime realm: Chris, can you enlighten me (and our readers) about what the hell is going on with Viola and Miyako in Yume Mita? I’m not caught up yet, but I’ve been rubbernecking the events as they’ve been popping up on my Bluesky feed, and it seems like A Lot.

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The real answer is that after the undercurrent of unhealthy yuri that powered the last two BanG Dream! entries, YUME∞MITA‘s inclusion of an actual-factual scheming, conniving, mustache-twirling villain in Viola has seen her latest move to be…seducing the band’s keyboardist, Miyako.
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Par for the course of these shows, as we’ve covered. Except that the actual, real-life Miyako, as in the performer who voice acts, plays the music, and posts on her social media account, is a huge yuri fan who’s been posting multiple pieces of thirsty fanart and a whole-ass fanfiction about her character and Viola since this plot development kicked off a few weeks ago.

We’ve covered some raw relationships here, but how about one so heavy it breaks the fourth wall?

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On a slightly more serious note, though, I’d like to go back to our original question: what is the deal with toxic yuri? While I believe there is an unavoidably exploitative aspect of it—an appeal to the trashy romance lover within us all—I also believe it goes deeper than that. Fact is, it is pretty difficult to exist in this world as a lesbian. It is even more difficult to exist as certain kinds of lesbian. There are predatory narratives that haunt us, laws and rhetoric that seek to oppress us, and other manifestations of bigotry and misogyny that surround us. Toxic yuri, therefore, provides an avenue to sublimate and explore some of those anxieties. It’s a release valve. A place to kick back in the playground of fiction, and a vehicle for safely banishing some more pernicious demons. That’s why I don’t think yuri will or should be getting more wholesome anytime soon. After all, the correct dose of poison can become a cure.

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